We love our kids. We want to provide for them, do our best for them and protect them. But sometimes our desire to make them happy and our dedication to looking after them can lead to ‘over-parenting’. With the best intentions in the world, we can over-praise, over-indulge and over-protect our little darlings ... and risk raising self-centred, entitled dependents, unable to think for themselves.
Here are some red flags that indicate you might be raising a spoilt child:
Topics: Parenting, Teens, High School, Behaviour, Primary School, Social Skills, Preschool, Toddlers
Most of my friends have had the experience of consoling me after I have been dealing with my daughter’s strength. “The force is strong with this one” seems to be a blissful statement that doesn’t even begin to touch on her perception of her capabilities.
I was fighting it hard. But for all my efforts, trying to teach this tiny woman with an iron clad will that she would submit seemed to be useless. I am a fundamentalist. And there was a part of me that believed that ‘good parenting’ meant submissive children. Enter massive issue…..my daughter will not submit, she wants to lead.
Topics: Parenting, Behaviour, Social Skills, Preschool, Prep, Leadership, Toddlers
My kids have a fantastic book on resilience called “Jilly and the Bully”. But after reading it SO many times (they love it!) I’m wondering if a better title is perhaps: “Jilly and the child that made a really bad choice, but who improved his behavior after she and he spoke and subsequently shouldn’t really be labelled as a bully”?
I think I upset another mother today ...
My children and I were getting into the lift at our local shopping centre and my boy was excited about pressing the button. One of the little girls with the other mother darted over to the buttons and pressed the button her mother asked her to. My boy asked if he too could press the button and I replied, 'We don't need to now, the other little girl has done it. You can press a button another time."
I had the most intriguing conversation with my son at bedtime the other night. He's not one to be emotional or 'cuddly' but at bedtime he likes me to lie with and talk to him. The other night as I lay down next to him he said to me, "Cuddle me tight Mum, but don't use your hands".
Topics: Parenting, Teens, High School, Behaviour, Primary School, Preschool, Prep, Toddlers
